“When I said, “don’t worry about it,” an American mother would likely not have perservered, but a Chinese mother, like my host mother, would most definitely have made the effort to find a way to assist the child’s needs.” This is one part of Marcus Larsen-Strecker’s story which he said at the Third Annual “Chinese Bridge” University Student Chinese Speech Contest.
This seems like my first time to hear others prasing the way Chinese parents love their children. The Chinese parenting style has always been a negative example since I began to remember things. “Spoil” has been an inevitable word when people speak of Chinese parenting. Even some people blame all the young people’s problems to the parenting way. Arranging everything for the chilren has become a simple explanation for Chinese parenting. However, the love Chinese parents give their children is far more than this. Like every coin has two sides, Chinese parenting way also has its advantages and disadvantages.
I still remember the story a Chinese father told me last year. Every sunday morning he washes his car, and then he will help his daughter wash her car. It has been a habit, and he never tells his daughter. Maybe his daughter still wonders why her car can always keep so clean. “Why don’t you let her to wash it herself?” I asked him, and he said that “I want to let her have more time to sleep since she works so hard everyday.” Yes, this is a typical Chinese parent, who an American parent will have a lot of questions while a Chinese parent will share the same value. If I was in a high school, I might think this was wrong since it took my chance to be independent. But now I will not. If you look at the parents’ eyes, and listen to their words, you will know they do these things with their heart. No matter others think it is good or bad, this is one part of Chinese cultural, the endless love parents give their children.